- Your heart will break on those mornings when your anxious toddler is clinging to your leg, desperate for you to stay home. And hearing the wonderful things your baby did while you were away will always likely be bittersweet.
- Shuffling from work to home and back again means you will be constantly shifting gears. Cramming in quality time with your child before and after long hours on the job can be exhausting, particularly when your baby is ill or fussy.
- The area that will suffer most is “your time management.”
- Your baby will miss you. There will be days when he falls down at daycare and will cry in the arms of someone else, wanting nothing more than to be with you.
- Career Mothers who have a hectic 9-6 routine have to come home and finish the school project or homework when husband is also away at work.
- Trying to manage child’s school schedule with an office deadline.Sometimes it gets so stressful, it makes one wonder if it is worth it.
- When your baby gets sick or if there is an emergency, you and your husband have to decide over whose turn it is to miss work, and sometimes it might be difficult for either one of them to miss work.
- Needless to say, working moms are more up to date with what is going on in the outside world.
STAYING AT HOME MOM:
- Watching babies grow up is amazing and fills one with a sense of wonder.
- As you are baby’s primary soother and cuddlier, you will know better than anyone else, and you’ll be around for his/hers every milestone, big and small.
- Staying home will streamline your life — it won’t make things less stressful, but it will keep you focused on activities surrounding the child.
- Children are very comforted knowing Mom is there.
- Having the whole day to do the housework.
- There’s no question that your child will be relying on you and you alone — a habit that can be hard to kick.
- When it comes to being the mother of a very young child, there’s the fear that what you’re doing is wrong when it comes to feeding, sleeping, or bathing. When another mom does something differently, those anxieties are stirred and there’s often, perhaps as a defense, an impulse to put down anyone who makes a different choice.
- Full time mothers bask in the glow of being a successful parent.
- Gets bugged up with the routine life.
Both working women and home makers can feel guilty and inadequate,there are times when both look longingly and enviously at the other option.But the grass is not greener on the other side.Each side needs the other for support, for inspiration, for succor, for strength. Both have made choices which need to be respected and could change their roles at any time.
I have been inspired by women who have become CEO’s as much as I have been moved by women who keep a spotless house and devote themselves selflessly to their children. There are some who have embraced their choices with happiness, some who try to straddle two worlds with a foot in each, some who find creative ways to manage their responsibilities. We have much to learn from each other.When we move from envy to empathy, from resentment to real connections, both can win.We just need to realize that we are on the same side.